Women were asked what they would like to say to other survivors. This is what they said. Readers are welcome to add to this page.
Sarah: "More than anything else, never settle for less than total acceptance from another person.
I've been there with boyfriends and girlfriends, some who accept all of who I am, others who can't. If they can't accept you they shouldn't be with you.
"They have to accept that some days you can do it all, and other days you can't, and you don't know which it's going to be until you're there in that moment. If today you can't, then you are not rejecting anyone, that is you keeping you ok. Go with that."
Patricia: "If I could say one thing to other survivors, it would be that if you only have one relationship in your life, it's better than being in many where people don't respect your body.
"Don't be ashamed of anything. If you don't want penis-vagina sex don't have it, it's not all about that, most women don't even orgasm from that.
"Don't be ashamed of anything. Don't be ashamed of your fantasies or the people you choose, or your lack of fantasies and keeping people away. But do unpick it. So if you're into violent, dominant sex then maybe ask why? Analyse your sexuality, does it cause you to seek out other damaging relationships?
"I'm asking that because I've been there. That's what it was for me, but it took me years to figure that out."
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